Welcome to the new year 🎆!
I know, I know,
I probably don’t think like you. Or let me just say, most people as I don’t know how you, in particular, think but I have realized that the younger generation always takes the worst hit.
Our society, black culture, in particular, has been structured that the younger person in any group is already at a disadvantage, especially when the older ones there are the elders 👵. I can’t say if that is respect or just plain old stress. I am a strong advocate of respect is reciprocal and an older person doing what I would be reprimanded for just ain’t it.
The biggest meat. Hian! You think that a luscious piece can lie securely on your plate? You must be kidding! The younger person is subject to giving it up for the grey-haired one, never mind that gramps has lost his teeth and the meat will have to be blended before he can drink it😪.
What I find worse is that the person that is “entitled” doesn’t actually desire it, but trust the choir around to sing your disrespect.
I suggest the older ones defer some of those choice pieces to we younger generation cause well, we need the nutrients more and I’m sure they had their fair share in their younger years.
Shut up. Yes, we sent you to oxford but keep the knowledge there. In here, what pops says is what stands, ignore the fact that it may be wrong. Your suggestions will be overridden but don’t take it to heart, it’s only disrespectful for the younger one to proffer solutions.
2020 is a brand new year. We could give our younger folks the microphone to voice their ideas, build their confidence, make them see that their ideas actually matter. In fact, older people shouldn’t think it embarrassing to follow suggestions from their younger folks. It only builds your respect in their eyes.
Give up your chair. Aha! My least favorite. I and my friends visited our grey-haired friend in his office and took up the three available chairs. Two people came in, a mother and her thirtyish daughter. The daughter faces me:
D: can she (her mum) have my chair?
Me: no problem, of course. (Hands chair over)
Mum: don’t worry, I can stand, we won’t stay long.
Me: (sits back down)
The conversation continues with them and my grandpa friend. It probably takes longer than expected, then the daughter shocks me.
D: stand up now! (Read that with as much vehemence as you can muster)
Me: (stands like a lamb and gives the mum the chair)
I remained standing, feeling foolish. Something didn’t feel right. I worked up some courage and told her it was very rude of her. Oh! She turned on me! I lacked respect, I was uncultured! Never mind I had given up my chair for someone I’d never met who said she didn’t want it.
So I spoke up and it was a problem? She couldn’t admit a simple wrong because I was younger and it was probably unheard of for the younger person to throw a correction. Humph. Guys, it doesn’t reduce you to say, ‘look, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean it like that.’
Keep the eyes down. You’re talking to me but I can’t look at you? How can you know if you’re communicating? Considering eye contact is one of the requirements of good communication, don’t you think we’re kinda off the mark?
A quick way to inspire confidence in the younger ones is to meet them on an eye to eye level.
Leave the TV alone. They’ve got control of the remote, all day, every day. They still need you to help power the TV on and change the channels but won’t let you watch what you desire or better yet, nag about your choice of channels.
Mum: put it in AM Yoruba.
Me: you’ve been there all morning, can I at least watch some CSI?
Mum: it’s not my child that will be watching how to kill people.
After the whole childhood training where you can do and undo, I think it will be better if the younger folks are treated like they matter because adolescence is the stage kids start looking to check if they belong and these little things tend to matter. A show of respect and you can imagine the turnover respect to you the adult.
You’re off to a great start in 2020.
On the other hand, you can ignore me and have a personal favorite:
Your plantain and eggs,